Change

I love change.  Every bit about it from the new people who come into my life to the new opportunities I might encounter at work.  Everything about change is totally exciting.  I only have one small caveat.  I love change as long as I am in complete control. Otherwise, change creates in me anxiety.

There have been times in life when so much is going on, that just getting up in the morning seems like a monumental task.  The last few months have been one of those times.  Between my company being sold — and my fate as yet undetermined — my oldest son going to college, a really close family to ours moving away, and a slew of other little things, it has felt like a siege of change.

So this is the part where, as a Christian, I am supposed to trust God.  I am supposed to trust that it is all going to work out and that all of my cares and worries will be handled by my Creator.  Someone recently said that, in regards to my job, it would “all work out.”  Having crossed the mid-century mark, I am not so sure, and I don’t feel I have the energy to tackle all of this potential new opportunity.

So what are we to do?  I have asked several people about this in the last few months, and either I get a trite answer like “Trust God” or I get an honest one, “I don’t know.  It’s a really tough situation.” Somewhere in between the superficial and the I-haven’t-a-clue, there has to be an answer.  Luckily, some people have genuinely offered really good ideas, and I have encountered some great reading to shed some perspective on all this change.

Here a couple of the good ideas.

  • focus every morning on devotional time with God
  • for work, think about your network, and re-engage with it. Even if nothing adverse happens with your job, staying connected to people really helps
  • think of your son’s transition as the life work you have been aiming for.  You have prepared him for this moment, now use the next two weeks getting yourself and your wife ready (had to laugh at this one; but it is so true)
  • give praise and thanks each day for at least three things.  Gratefulness is a blessing and helps you focus on the good
  • Exercise.  Endorphins rock.

Amidst all of the good advice, there have been some morsels of truth.  And being the normal guy that I am, living out my normal faith, here is something I have found that is critical to this time in my life:  really, really focus on building a stronger relationship with Jesus.

Be intentional about faith.

Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:1-4.

In times like this, it is very easy to set my interests above others.  I am intentional each and every day to remind myself that this life is not about me.